In the hussle and bussle of preparing for a magical wedding day, it is common to overlook the importance of the ceremony and especially who you pick to officiate the service. When you think of it, however; the ceremony is the only element needed to make your marriage official, the rest are only enhancements to the festivities.
When considering the wedding as a whole, the ceremony is the most important part of it. Not only does it capture the promises you and your partner make to each other for life, but your ceremony sets the tone for the rest of your day’s events. A heartfelt, fun, and upbeat ceremony helps your wedding day begin on a high note, a boring and unengaging one, will drain you and your guests. So the care and attention given to your ceremony and who officiates your wedding cannot be overemphasized.
Today Sepideh from Vida Ceremonies joins us with her top five tips on how to pick an officiant to create a vibrant and memorable ceremony for your most special day!
1. Have a clear vision in mind for the ceremony
Whether you are looking for a traditional, religious, non-religious, funny, or romantic ceremony, be clear on what you want your ceremony to look and feel like. There are many different ways to create a ceremony and it is important that you customize it to what you want. For example, you can integrate various rituals, involve your family and friends, add your favorite poem, or a specific language you care about and many other unique elements.
When choosing an officiant make sure he/she is comfortable in creating your vision and is either aligned with you or is flexible to turn that vision into reality. At the end of the day, you have to remember that it is “your” day and the officiant is providing “you” with a service that you want. Choose and articulate what you want and find the person who can help you in creating your vision.
2. Make sure you get a good vibe from your officiant
Getting into the decision of tying the knot is not something anyone takes lightly. The ceremonial moment of entering into the commitment of marriage is a deep and intimate one. This decision, as well as the words you choose and your actions come from the deepest part of your heart. For that reason you want to make sure the officiant you choose makes you feel comfortable and at ease. One who connects with you on a positive level. In the process of interviewing your officiant, make sure you listen to your instincts and the way you feel around your officiant.
While the ceremony may be short and brief, the feeling that it leaves behind will stay with you for the rest of your life so make sure you choose someone you connect with, trust, and respect.
the ceremony is at the heart of any weddingSepideh Rezania
3. Choose someone who makes time for you
Your officiant should also create time to get to know you before the wedding. Making time to understand your personality and your desires for the ceremony is the most important part of creating a heartfelt personalized service. Make sure you meet with him/her in person or over the phone. With the availability of videoconferencing technology, it is always good to see your officiant over the internet and put a face to the name, even if you cannot meet in person.
We have all heard stories about officiants who arrive late to the ceremony or are not willing to work with you if you are running behind schedule. While we want everything to go perfectly, we know not everything is within our control. Your officiant should be willing to arrive early and be flexible in case things are running late. Also check with your officiant on how many weddings a day they are performing. Typically, having back to back ceremonies leaves no room for time flexibility.
4. Make sure your officiant has the necessary credentials to perform and register the marriage in your area
In order for you to obtain a marriage certificate, your officiant must be legally recognized in the region you are getting married, either as a minister, celebrant, and a religious figure, or a commissioner, depending on the laws of the country you reside in. Don’t hesitate to ask the officiant to make sure they have the right legal status.
5. Choose your ceremony budget wisely
When determining an overall budget and allocating a percentage to each area of your wedding, be sure to include the ceremony and the officiant. Remember that the ceremony is at the heart of any wedding and the officiant as the conductor can create a service reflective of you and your partner. To customize your ceremony, your officiant spends hours interviewing you and getting to know you, to prepare and select a service that resonates with you. An officiant who is more attentive to details and who presents a ceremony to fit your vision should be valued for their time and effort. Like other areas of your wedding such as flowers, musician and photographer, the officiant is an integral part of your event and should be figured into the budget early on.
Remember to start the process of hiring an officiant well in advance of your wedding day to have plenty of time to select the one that you feel comfortable with and who meets your requirements. With the right person, you can be certain that your efforts and investment will be worthwhile; in the end having a ceremony which you will fondly cherish and remember.
With the right person, you can be certain that your efforts and investment will be worthwhile; in the end having a ceremony which you will fondly cherish and remember.
Connect with Sepideh Rezania at Vida Ceremonies
Sepideh Rezania, Vida Ceremonies
Sepideh is a Metaphysical Minister and also carries a Masters in Electrical Engineering. She is fluent in English and Persian and works with you to customize a genuine, thoughtful, and touching customized ceremony. She lives in Kelowna, British Columbia but travels Worldwide to conduct ceremonies.
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